Is It Selfish To Focus On Our Own Happiness?

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Is it selfish to focus on self-happiness?

You have probably heard others accuse you of being selfish when you choose what makes you happy.

Probably, you have leveled the same accusation at others when they chose happiness over helping you.

Is happiness a zero-sum game? Is our happiness robbing others of their chance to be happy?

What do you do when others condemn you for being selfish, for choosing not to do something you do not enjoy?


Choose when and how to help others

You Get To Choose When And How To Help Others

Do you always say ‘yes’ when someone asks you to join in an activity or help them to do something that makes you miserable?

Consider whether you would sacrifice your own feelings of joy to do something that makes you miserable.

If you choose joy, do your friends and family then make you feel guilty? And do you then give up your joy to participate in the thing that makes you miserable?

By creating happy chemicals in your body, you are not robbing others of the chance to be happy too. If someone chooses to do something they do not enjoy, that is their choice. The responsibility is not yours to make them enjoy it or to join them in their misery.

If you have a choice, why would you choose to be miserable?

You can cooperate to accomplish mutual goals. But the choice of when is totally up to you.

Service To Others Is Noble But Not Forced

You may want to serve people and that is a noble aspiration. But if the goal is to create happy feelings in your brain because you are serving others, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

You can end up feeling bitter if people do not respond to your service with the kindness and generosity you expect.

Remember, you are responsible for your own happiness. 


Sheevaun Moran is a business advisor, master coach, quantum energy thought leader and the founder of Energetic Solutions. She uses business principles with energetic techniques to help more than 25,000 entrepreneurs, CEOs and leaders bring instant focus and shifts to clarity, purpose, and profits.



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