For the past several months I’ve been hearing from clients that they are exhausted. They aren’t feeling like they are motivated to do anything and that their brains feel mucky and thick. All they want to do is get through the day and go to bed.
Could it be that the winter had been pressing on everyone so much so that they cannot get enough rest while sleeping? It may be they have something going on inside that’s interrupting their sleep cycle. Maybe the stars and moon are misaligned? Or maybe it could be that they are just deprived of oxygen.
The brain deprived of oxygen creates a headache. One of the first things that can create crabbiness is a deficiency of oxygen. It goes on from there that if the body is deprived of sufficient water, healthy live food, and rest, it will send excessive adrenaline into the system. Constant adrenaline running through the system is like an alarm going off nonstop. Our culture thrives on thrills, but the result is to feel crabby and burned out because too few of us know how to balance all this yang activity with more yin self-care.
Enter Valentines, a time of lighthearted love, amour and chocolates in great abundance. While this event can bring some overdoing with it, it also represents a time to stop and smell the roses with someone you care for, including yourself. It is a day to luxuriate in the good things of life and to breathe in sweet fragrances, and allow delicious tastes to tickle the tongue.
I’m not suggesting that we can just flip a switch and go from feeling exhausted and grouchy when we’re deprived of vital sustenance—enough sleep, oxygen or water for our bodies. So whether it is Valentine’s or another message we heed, we need to address the body’s call from exhaustion and depletion, and learn to respond with kind care, first toward ourselves so that we can be restored.
Rest and relaxation are two of the best antidotes to weariness that comes across as crabby. When we feel replenished, grouchiness vanishes, and once again we feel the luscious desire to be connected with care to the dear ones in our lives.
The physical heart is an amazing organ, beating consistently from early in the womb, until we finish our walk in life. The ‘drum’ of the heart keeps up this rhythm through all our ups and downs. In a lifetime, it is estimated that the human heart beats 2.5 billion times barely skipping a beat regardless of what is happening and how we feel about our lives at any time.
Even with all this continuity, most of us have hearts that are in need of healing. We have deep-seated heartache due to loss that started when we were children, and we’ve been collecting pain along the way that could use some help to resolve. While we may think that we’re doing fine because our heart keeps on beating, we need to take care of it, not only physically to provide good nutrition and exercise, but to nourish our emotional heart as well. While there’s no real formula for healing a troubled heart that has been heavy for years, it does need good long doses of ‘TLC’ before it begins to regain its true strength.
It is interesting some of the terms we have with heart there’s brave heart, sweetheart, heart of gold, heart-felt and heart-warming. At one time we’ve all acknowledged someone that has a “big” heart. Does this mean that the person has a heart that is bigger than ordinary? Is a bigger heart good to have since it usually brings with it larger doses of pain to handle?
These are questions that don’t have simple answers. Why is it that one person with a lot of pain lives a turbulent life, whose best strategy for minimizing pain is to shut people out, while another may use the heart’s pain to tenderize his/her heart and open to greater levels of compassion and tolerance for others?
Like the mystery of how the heart beats so consistently through the course of our lives, as well, how we are healed may not be visible, but we know when it feels right and the heart is rejuvenated.
When we put our hearts into things that we care for, it enriches our lives, fulfills our dreams, lightens the load of stress, allows for improvement in business, leadership and relationships in all parts of life AND brings much needed healing. So in this month of celebrating love, I encourage you to ‘follow your heart’ to achieve what you desire most in your life. I’m here to provide more heart-smart strategies if you could use a boost.
Recently I watched a TedxTalk that illustrates how becoming aware of our authentic creative juiciness is empowering. A group of designers worked with some art students that were aptly identified as ‘makers.’ Through this creative initiative, many new projects were born, and wven more importantly, lots of young people found a new way to think about being a tool.
The designer-in-charge of the project admitted during the talk that his professional training to remain in control of the situation had to be jettisoned, so that he could become a fulcrum that fostered new perspectives among his ‘maker’ group, rather than driving the process to meet a specified goal. As someone that is used to managing outcomes, at the beginning he had to let go of his fear that there might not be anything to show at the end of the experiment. His fears were quite unfounded.
I wanted to share this, because we need to allow ourselves permission to let go of control, to realize that beyond our fairly codified ways of living are vast opportunities to grow and realize who we are with so much more depth and richness than we can ever arrive at by exercising our mental ways of maintaining ‘control’ of life.
I find TEDxTalks a very accessible way to be inspired by people that have taken a leap to move beyond the limiting power that fear exerts to keep them from being successful on their own terms.
I invite you to watch this one and see what it sparks in you. We like to think that there’s a specific map to success in life. Yet creative people know that it’s often the openness to the unexpected that allows the opportunity for new solutions and opportunities to manifest that would otherwise have not appeared because we’re busy controlling everything. What I love about this piece is that it shows how we can see things differently at any time and become positive tools for catalyzing change!
Enjoy this talk and let me know what you think:
Ironically, most of us have an ‘abundance’–of scarcity thinking. Optimally, we need to learn the technology to turn this overflow of negative thoughts into true abundance that enriches and prospers our lives.
Why aren’t we doing this? Our little amygdala is getting in the way. This tiny part of the brain located in the temporal lobes essentially feeds on the negative or bad news. It thinks it is protecting us with its intense focus on all kinds of threats, perceived and actual. In our early evolution we were in need of a security system to protect us from the unknown, and this area of the brain developed for this purpose. Yet today, being mired in a closed loop of negative and stress-filled thoughts is no formula for success.
At some point over the past many millennia, this program and part of the brain needed to get overwritten with new code, because the amygdala is reactively ‘protective’ in ways that run counter to healthy development and outer success.
Today the unknown is where the fold into the gold lies. This unknown is calling us forward with our intuition to move into our highest goals and dreams.
At any given time throughout the day, the energy we have at your disposal is 11 million kilowatts per pound. With the size of the brain, this is roughly translated into $85 billion of energy.
Imagine…what the possibilities could be with this kind of
wattage directed in a positive way to create your new future?
Making effective use of this energy is my passion and my mission to share how to power your life, family, relationship, and business with more positive energy than you are accessing today. Each one of us is an endless source of energy–we are the future of abundance here on the planet.
As an author and founder of Energetic Solutions, I use ancient energy technology to power up your health and success.
It is now the season of sacred holidays among many of the world’s religious traditions. Since water is synonymous with spirit in the West, as well as in many traditional cultures, it is a good time to consider how we relate to this mundane and yet most mystical element.
Our first home is in the water. When we are born we are about 75-80% water, yet as we age, most of us have greater and greater degrees of dehydration as we literally become less ‘fluid.’ Lots of our daily symptoms of discomfort can be traced to the body’s feedback, whether a headache or eye irritation, telling us that we need to have more hydration to function and adequately flush toxins from our system.
Water is a necessity for our lives on the physical level, even if we have become accustomed to drinks, such as from Starbucks, that are loaded with dehydrating caffeine and sugar. The body still cries for water, it is the medium for thousands of exchanges in order for us to not only survive, but thrive.
On the level of spirit, water too, is a necessity. Water, water, it’s everywhere, but where do we get a spiritual sip of water amidst all the demands of daily life? Water is spiritually synonymous with renewal; to be regenerated in ways that are tangible and meaningful. Spiritually, water is nourishment we cannot live without. Like the eight glasses of water per day that are recommended, here are some suggestions to start with to have your daily drink of spiritual water as well:
- Smile at everyone you can. Smiling, like water, is instantly renewing and will often bring a lot of bright ‘sunshine’ your way in return.
- In the midst of feeling wound up in problems and stress, find a way to close your eyes and breathe, visualizing something that is nurturing and/or beautiful.
- Send a handwritten note to someone that you care about and have not been in touch with for a while. It does wonders to sprinkle some water of care over your feelings for others and keep friendships alive.
- While it might seem overstated, countering the daily swirl of thoughts with something that slows and soothes, like mantras, mental offerings of gratitude, and remembering sweet times shared will do much to help find grounding and new momentum, feeling restored.
- We often focus on forgiving others and forget that it is extended more readily if we extend it to ourselves when a harsh inner critic is making life miserable. We do not have to be perfect to be lovable!
- Close your eyes and place a beautiful flower in the center of your chest. In the center of that the flower place an image of someone you love dearly and say “I love you so very much.” Sit for a moment and be open as the love returns to you in waves. Remember that all life gets fuel from water and this may just fill up your tank and those around you. Click here for this guided journey.
So in this season of the sacred we can sip and sup upon the wonders of water in all it’s ways to restore and regenerate. May you be well watered in 2014!
I’m available for questions and to help you launch your intentions into manifesting fulfillment. Call me at (714) 374-1988.
The next year is nearly here. Whatever we’ve done or not done in 2013 is about to become history. As life changes at an ever- accelerating rate, we must become much more expert at distilling the pearls of wisdom from our life experience, whether it appeared to be challenging or fulfilling at the time. You see…the masters know that it’s really all the same. It’s all energetic and it’s all part of the journey to recognize who we are and the strengths at home and in our businesses that are true to our nature.
Whether we did something with ease or it was a major struggle this past year, we need to develop more perspective about all these things and learn to be resilient while moving at a good speed. We are all being challenged to realize that the pace of life just isn’t going to be slow any more and so we have to become much more adept at seeing the value in what we face and maintain, or get help maintaining, a bigger view of it all.
The wisdom of the new era has already been written and phrased by artists, writers, world leaders and visionaries of the sacred—we are called to become the largess of our spirit in human form. We are called to rise up, to step forward, to speak and express the truth that urges us forward to become more authentic and alive.
In the next few days we will begin another round and raise our glasses to toast the best of what is leaving,
exhale with a sigh
at what we no longer wish to keep from this packet of time,
and look to the new horizon of 2014 with renewed possibility. While there is a lot to worry over and become anxious about if we drop our consciousness into the daily state of mind, the approaching new year is a call to let the inner urging of spirit register what beckons next.
Because we live in so much flux, we now live in a world of reinvention and the wisdom of this time is to allow a process of creative reshaping to become a way of life and in the being and doing within your business. The gift in this is that it allows us to be on the road to discovery about what lies ahead and what lies within that wants to unfurl and be seen in the light of day and utilized in service.
So join me in raising a glass (of juice!) to what is coming in the next year and celebrate its impending arrival.
As a master of alchemy and working with the keys of change, I’m here throughout the next year at any time that you’d like some assistance in developing a new perspective and taking action. You can reach me at (714) 374-1988.
Sometimes we are touched by one human and other times we are touched by millions. The outpouring and gifts from this video show us how both impact us daily.
With the holiday month of December I thought it would be good to talk about communication since it’s a month filled with social exchange. The holidays are actually like a short and intense course in mastering our energy, because we’re often in social situations almost nonstop, from shopping and interacting in stores, to conversations with family and friends about upcoming celebrations. When we actually get to the events, sharing with our closest ones, there’s lots of pressure to conform to traditions and perspectives of those that care for us that eventually cause energy hiccups to happen as we do our best to be real while not ruffling too many feathers.
I enjoy the articles that talk about how to ‘survive’ the holidays and ways to nurture ourselves between all the nonstop activity. This is a way to plan ahead and prepare, like doing yoga stretching that builds capacity and develops more resilience to meet life. We sure do need more adaptive skills for the holidays and this leads me to how we can act in ways that brings more cohesion and less stress.
First, with all that is packed into a few weeks, we can lose perspective and forget to bring the breath to meet whatever is in front of us. The breath is the basic resource, connecting us with a sense of expansion and energy. We should begin our days with some practice that opens and enlarges our sensibility before we step into the pressure chamber of all that needs to be done, as we meet daily responsibilities. Mindfulness needs to begin at home so to speak and this means that we need to set our day with some practice that strengthens and brings more focus.
When we’re interacting through our day then our practice helps us to remember to allow some spaciousness for other higher qualities to emerge in any setting we’re in. For instance, if something goes awry, a little inclusive humor can keep everyone on the same page and moving forward. When someone forgets, patience is a balm to maintain a group connection and help the person come back into the fold and continue on. We’re all in this ‘comedy of errors’ and the more we can maintain a sense of perspective and amusement, the better off we ALL are.
Of course, through the intensity of the holiday activity, something is bound to tweak us and then we have to find our way back to center. Then we get to recall that it’s all about practice. With every art in our lives, the skill that comes from repetition leads to well-earned wisdom.
Both within and without, mindfulness is the practice of mastering our energy and the holidays is an annual intensive. Remembering to breathe and bring more awareness to what is here now will provide much needed resources to brighten the holidays. The best gift we can give anyone during this season is to extend ourselves in caring ways that are real.
For fifteen years I’ve been helping others master their energy. I’m available to help in any way that fits your needs. With 2014 coming soon, it’s a good time to receive a boost into the new year with some energy mastery mentoring. If you have any questions, give me a call at (714) 374-1988.
Holiday Blessings to All!
Words can be cheap. Spin doctors use them like they were disposable wipes. We all have our ways of spinning yarns with words. The problem is, we’re not only proverbially spinning yarn, we’re making our world with the words we choose, and don’t even recognize it.
The well-known wordsmith and visionary thinker Jean Huston talks about how the language shapes our consciousness. We need to become masters both of our thoughts and our use of the building blocks of how we think, through our use of words.
So here we come to some of the building blocks that begin with the letter ‘f.’ ‘F’ine you say, so what do I do with these blocks to build my world into one that is more fulfilling (‘f’ word again)?
First, give some thought to those pesky ‘f’ words. Not just THE F word, but others like frustrated, futile, even fine, which is often a cover for “don’t look my way while I’m just trying to get by.” The problem is, life isn’t meant to be just about surviving. Even ‘f’rustrated and ‘f’utile feelings can point us in the direction of more momentum by recognizing that they are signs of going in the wrong direction. It is through making different choices that we set out on a far better path for our lives. One of the most important ‘f’ words that can help to change the course for the better is that of forgiveness. It is a very under used word and form of consciousness transformation when used sincerely.
Change can begin with the words we use to create our world, because there is wisdom locked within, and words are keys to point us in the right direction. As Houston says, they actually vibrate specific frequencies so it’s good to make a diet of ones that do more to raise awareness and generate momentum than cheap fast food of those sticky ‘f’ words.
So try some of the uplifting ‘f’ words such as friendly, faith, fulfilled and fortunate in your daily diet of words. Looking for the good ‘f’s in life can help to change how we see it. Once you feel like you’ve mastered those ‘f’ words, then you can move on to the ‘g’s, and start with some GRATITUDE. Now you’re tapped into a powerhouse of spiritual transformation.
December is a month we’ve devoted to wisdom, so if you feel like your world is stuck in some way, I’d be happy to help you move into a more fulfilled direction through accessing your treasure hidden within. Join me in knowing what it is to have life flowing and for real, oh so F ine.